As mentioned in a previous post , here is the low-down on my birthday gift:
As he does each year, Dan called from work a few days before my birthday to get some ideas for a gift. I truly could think of nothing. There didn't seem to be anything I NEEDED at that moment. Lately my mantra before making any purchase is "Do I really NEED this, or do I just WANT it?" I believe this has saved our family quite a bit of money as it forces me to distinguish between needs and wants. We are blessed to have our needs pretty well taken care of, so it is difficult for me to buy something, just because I want it.
After giving Dan no help whatsoever, I realized that with June being chockful of gift-giving days, perhaps we could combine the occasions into one big gift. Perhaps that big gift could be a low-cost facelift for our bedroom? Our room had probably not been touched since the early '80's. The decor consisted of yellowing pink floral wallpaper; a faded, musty, mauve, shag, wall-to-wall carpet; the original windows; large, dark wood-toned furniture,which overpowers the room; and a ceiling which no longer leaks, but shows evidence of every leak and repair for the last twenty years. Not pretty. Not a room where parents of six, running a busy household could find an oasis in the midst chaos. Surely peeling off the wallpaper, ripping up the carpet and painting would amount to a weekend project. I could go shopping for paint and new bedding and curtains while Dan and the kids spruced up. By Sunday night we would be relaxing in our "new' room! It would be great!
Well, many wives already know this, but after 23 years, I am finally getting it. Most husbands could care less about colors, wallpaper, rugs, and bedding. As much as the decor irritated me, it really didn't bother Dan at all. Many wives I've spoken to say the same about their spouses.
So for Dan to get really involved in the "facelift", this project has to interest him, as a man. This means, a significant amount of ripping out, knocking down, and of course lots of power tools! So here is the first stage of our anniversary/Father's Day/ Birthday gift:
Added bonus: a bit of father-son bonding. You know men don't magically gain the knowledge of how to install light switches, sheetrock walls, and tape and spackle once they become homeowners. Hopefully they have had a Dad who is willing to share his own knowledge!
I am going to try and post some pictures here and there on the progress. Our formerly flat, boring ceiling will now have a nice slope, making the room feel more spacious; we have replacement windows ready to install; hi-hat lighting; and if Dan has his way (and after all this work I think he deserves to have his way) there will be some kind of projection television which we will be able to see on the wall where the ceiling drops (right where you can see that duct running). In 23 years we've never had television in the bedroom, so this will be different.
There is only one constraint on this project... family visitng from out-of-town starting on July 4th!!!! Talk about a deadline! This is going to be one busy week!
I better get out and choose that paint and new bedding! Stay tuned!